love, sleep and anger - you are you and i am i - and it's beautiful

My mama used to tell me, "never go to bed/sleep angry" - but I get angry, and tired, and even if I wanted to resolve something either the person/reason isn't at hand to resolve OR the person is right beside me but in no mood to resolve. It takes two. And both get tired. So you need to sleep!

Once you get there, even if sleep and anger issues lead to slightly disturbed rest with tossing and turning and defining moments of REM anger dreams, isn't it better to have slept a bit off and then deal with it in the morning, with some rest [and perhaps less alcohol for some] in the system?

Some say "I rather just talk about it and resolve the issue at that time and then go to sleep knowing everything is kosher..." There are Facebook "not going to sleep until you're not mad..." pages dedicated to this point-of-view [POV] but a lot of times its really late and both parties are too tired to do anything. And in the dim of the night, with a lot on one's mind and at the end of a long day, people tend to say too much or too little and this can add fuel to the fire.

People - if you love someone and are loved back - they are going to be there in the morning to fix things [OK, maybe not straight away...some have to walk it off a while...but they will be there].

I'm an advocate to let issues sleep a moment, and to tackle it at a calm moment to give the best opportunity at resolution. It helps me to think through whether it's really an issue after all, or if it can just be put down to erratic moods and moments. If it's still an issue the next day, you also have a chance to think your POV through rationally before fighting for it just for the sake of winning. Yes, it's true, ... sometimes you're not always in the right! And understanding both POVs - and taking the time to think about both sides - can be the way to a better sleep, and even hot make up sex, soon after.

~ i do my thing and you do yours. i am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. you are you and i am i, and if by chance we find each other, then it is beautiful. if not, it can't be helped ~ Frederick Perls

There's the "3 Steps to a Loving Marriage - Do Not Go to Sleep Angry" article, but I rather like words from an anonymous visitor to Romance Class [I guess everything can be a class offered online] who clearly writes: "...agree with your partner that the issue will not be worked out right then, but that you will sit down and resolve it the next day when you have plenty of time and a fresh outlook. You´ll probably find that the issue is much easier to work through when you have plenty of time and a night´s sleep behind you."

Kudos! and sweet dreams.